Few days ago I had the chance to volunteer at a recreational camp for families who have adopted children. As exciting as the event sounds, the children were the ones who were probably the most excited. Maybe that was the reason why some were wild and difficult to manage.
Overall, I was very touched and impressed by the parents' resilience towards their children's bad behavior and disobedience. They were probably determined to face these problems before they had adopted the children. Rough times were anticipated and their hearts were set. Maybe it was for this reason that I could see their unfailing patience and unconditional love towards their children. The majority of the time even if children were becoming loud and distracting I stood silent to respect the parents, and let them act according to their will.
That being said, I also found out that adoption is quite rare in Korea. Families rather choose to raise children of their own blood and anything other than that could be considered a defilement. Lineage is sacred and families have incredible pride in their own roots.
One interesting article that I read the other night was "Taking on South Korea's adoption Taboo."
What I got out from this was that not only is adoption a taboo in South Korea, but the government has restricted foreign adoptions and therefore more orphans are being held in orphanages without a family to be with. This is disastrous for the children in many aspects: education, psychological stability, social support, and etc.
My guess is that since Korea is at the bottom of the table when it comes to birth rate, they do not want to lose anymore of their young work force for the sake of the economy.
The solution is to encourage families to adopt more. It is really as simple that!
As women these days tend to marry in their 30s, infertility has become more common. I personally know many families who attempt in vitro fertilization in efforts to get a child of their own genes. However some families fail till their 50s, and even then they are reluctant to adopt.
There needs to be a shift in paradigm, and if adoption is so controversial to Korean culture, I am not sure if this culture is humane.
I could also go on and on about Christian families opposing to adopt, but in the end the conclusion is that the next generation should be mindful of orphans who grow up without ever being nurtured by a family. If conditions allow, there is no reason why people should not be inviting them to their own families.