Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Medical students tend to be annoying obsessive perfectionists

This is a generalization, but many medical students are obsessive and closed-minded to flexibility.

I have friends in the medical field who are laid back, but there is quite a high percentage of people in this field who are perfectionists and live in their own little bubble. These people are closed-minded and become extremely offended when something doesn’t go according to their expectations. They are very serious in certain matters (like everyone else), but the problem is that the spectrum in which they get caught upon are is quite broad.

This becomes tiresome because if you are a free-flowing character like me, you will come across frequent collisions with these personnel.

I usually don’t like generalizations and that is why I try to approach people without bias. However, I have been let down by so many selfish and obsessive people that it is time for me to take precautions in order to stop getting hurt.

Let’s face it. Doctors need to be obsessive and live under strict rules. They can’t be negotiable when it comes to dealing with people’s lives. You need to accept this and respect their focused mindset. So focused that it often leads one to be narrow-sighted.

Don't expect any humane traits in such people. Any hints of humane traits are most likely fake, and even if it is genuine, the depth kindness and sensitivity towards others is bound to be shallow.

Saturday, December 1, 2018

Best Movies of 2018: Top 10

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Personal Pick

1. 아이 캔 스피크 I Can Speak

2. Ready Player One

3. Black Panther

4. 독전 Believer

5. 너의 결혼식 On Your Wedding Day

6. Venom

7. 마녀 The Witch: Part 1. The Subversion

8. Crazy Rich Asians

9. Bohemian Rhapsody

10. Tomb Raider

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Angry BJJ partner tapping out late

So I’ve started doing BJJ for almost two months, and it has been incredibly rewarding.  I had so much fascination and joy that I probably haven’t felt for a long time. The coach and the students were also incredibly friendly that it made my transition much easier.

Well, couple days ago I faced my first frustration, or rather upset.

I have been quite athletic all my life. I was in varsity soccer team till high shool, competed against varsity in college, had decent records in track etc.
So I’ve picked up on BJJ quite quickly and I’ve been able to tap out my senior white belt stripes recently (those who were maybe 5-10kg lighter than me).
And this is when I have started to feel some kind of hostility.

Couple days ago I had a senior white belt on a triangle and arm barred him slowly. He wouldn’t tap out so I kept the pressure on and slowly released his arm until he gave me a abrupt punch. It didn’t hurt or anything but I found it incredibly disrespectful. I mean it wasn’t even a late tap, but an expression of anger, or to go even further violence.

I did confront this guy and told him that I didn’t want to injure him but warned him that he should be tapping or else there would be injuries. I shared my frustration with the coach as well and later the guy came up to me and apologized and told me that he was being excessivlely competitive. I said I understood and I had my faults as well. He was a young guy so I also understood his immaturity.

Conversations were all healthy but as a newbie to BJJ, this type of agression really made me bothered. After thinking deeply into this matter I came to the conclusion that maybe my skills have improved significantly and it is time for me to transition away from just focusing on submissions and start practicing a range of new techniques that I am uncomfortable with.

When you are a beginner every moment of BJJ is intimidating, and to make sure you don’t suffer you do your best to execute  submissions. At least that was how I felt like as a beginner.

Next time, I am letting the other mount me and I will be practicing escapes only.
If someone has a pride issue, no need to rub it against him. Let them have the submission and this might make the atmosphere less depressing.

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Best Movies of 2017: Top 10

My personal pick:

1. The Greatest Showman

2. 범죄 도시 The Outlaws

3. 청년 경찰 Midnight Runners

4. La La Land

5. 더 킹 The King

6. Hidden Figures

7. John Wick 2

8. Thor: Ragnarok

9. American Made

10. Dunkirk

The Greatest Showman (2017)

Overall Rating 9.8
Best movie of 2017, and possible my favorite all time. 

Monday, November 13, 2017

Importance of Frequent Communication

I’m someone who has a big problem when it comes to communication.
Reason? It demands too much of my energy and I find it more convenient to ignore the situation without confrontation.

I’m writing this post because the more I pass out on the opportunities to solve a problem by communication, I see how the outcome is even worse. Even if confrontations exhaust your energy and destabilize your emotions, these early interventions can really be good for you in the long run.

You may think that by being patient and persuading yourself to be forgiving is the best way to approach these situations. It sounds much more mature and selfless. How wrong was I! You and I are no saints. Patience is not always the right answer. In fact, I believe that early intervention through prompt conversation is the best way to prevent further conflicts in any relationships.

I always thought losing was winning; patience was a virtue; I was acting mature by suppressing my emotions. No. No. NO.

As I have said before. You are no saint. You are not even good enough to be able to forgive someone. Don’t overestimate yourself. You and I are mere human beings full of angst, flaws, fragilities, and selfishness.

Patience is a good virtue don’t get me wrong. But there is an alternative that you should try.
Here’s my main point: you need to communicate early on. If you have something that annoys you, speak it! Communicate! Explain how this makes you unhappy and that you want to find a solution! The reason you should be doing this is to prevent conflicts early on. To protect yourself.

Since I’m a medical student, I’d like to use the following analogy. Just like preventing cardiovascular diseases by dieting, exercising, eating health EARLY on, it’s important to prevent relationship problems early on. If you don’t, and if you fool yourself by thinking it’ll be ok, then one day you’ll see the full symptoms of the ignorance and patience that has deceived you. In the case of cardiovascular diseases, that would be a heart attack, a myocardial infarction, when suddenly one of your coronary arteries get blocked off completely and it can’t supply your heart with blood anymore. Without prompt intervention your heart tissue dies and it could also lead to your death.

Do this for your own sake. Patience and ignorance is not good for you in the long run. These small convenient habits of avoiding conversations are toxic and will bring bad results.
I say again. For your own good and for your own sake. For you own rights, for your well-being, please  communicate the problems that trouble you and seek a resolution for these problems with your peers.

If you think this approach is too selfish, here is a word of advice my mom usually told me: “If you can’t take care of yourself. How can you take care of others?” If you really want to be selfless and altruistic human being, you need to make sure you take care of yourself first. After all, what use is a doctor who can’t even take care of his/her own health. Before you go out and try to help out people, first  reflect on your own status check if you need any help. Such humility is the first step before we can declare that we are ready to help others.

My point: communicat

Friday, August 25, 2017

What we have is not ours

Matthew 21: 33-41, 43 (The Parable of the Tenants)

 Listen to another parable: There was a landowner who planted a vineyard. He put a wall around it, dug a winepress in it and built a watchtower. Then he rented the vineyard to some farmers and moved to another place. When the harvest time approached, he sent his servants to the tenants to collect his fruit. The tenants seized his servants; they beat one, killed another, and stoned a third. Then he sent other servants to them, more than the first time, and the tenants treated them the same way. Last of all, he sent his son to them. They will respect my son, he said. But when the tenants saw the son, they said to each other, This is the heir. Come, lets kill him and take his inheritance. So they took him and threw him out of the vineyard and killed him. Therefore, when the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants? He will bring those wretches to a wretched end, they replied, and he will rent the vineyard to other tenants, who will give him his share of the crop at harvest time.....Therefore I tell you that the kingdom of God will be taken away from you and given to a people who will produce its fruit. Anyone who falls on this stone will be broken to pieces; anyone on whom it falls will be crushed. 

So many times we think that what we have on earth is ours. This is a wretched thought!

The passage of Matthew 21 describes the owner of a vineyard sending his son to collect the fruits, but the tenants killed him out of greed, delusion, and selfishness that made them believe they could forever keep what was temporarily entrusted to them. As a result, God, the owner, killed them all.

This is the same with us. Likewise, we sin every day, envying and lusting over things that are all Gods. However, we have to understand that all creation is Gods. My life included. The luxuries, the relationships, my family, my home, my wage, my spouse, everything is Gods. The moment we put ourselves as the center of ownership, we are deluding ourselves and putting risk to our own lives.

God wants us to see the truth and be sane. He wants us to be free from the bondage of sin that has tricked us into thinking we are above God. This was a stumbling block for numerous biblical figures such as Adam+Eve, Saul, and Pharaoh. To be able to discern this truth we need to put God center of our daily lives. In our relationships, in our work, possessions, and everything, God needs to be the center of attention. Once God becomes less important in our lives, thats when we will again fool ourselves to believe that this vineyard is ours from the beginning.

Lord, I pray that you give us discerning eyes and humbleness so that we can declare that all we have and see is yours. And may that move us to treat the things in our lives with more love and care. Amen.